I love asking small children what they want to be when they grow up, only because the answer can change three times a week, and be delivered with perfect sincerity on each occasion. This makes me feel much better about the somewhat erratic path my own career has followed.
If you strongly believe you must look hard at your faults, go for it. Just do it in a balanced way. — Vicki Botnick, MA, MS, LMFT
For most of us (yes, that includes me), we wake up everyday thinking of more ways to earn and be able to buy what we want. We live our days wondering how we can succeed and finally be happy. But what really is happiness for us? When do we say we have reached that point of happiness where we can decide, “Yes, I am happy now?”
I think one of the best ways to achieve that happiness is to be content. When we try to live life in contentment, we stop needing more and begin to feel that what we have is enough – more than enough, actually. Choosing contentment means deciding to accept what is and what is not, welcoming joy and love as well as the pain and sorrow that come with them.
But how to do it – how to live a life of contentment – may come with some sacrifice on the things that we want or dream of having. Here are some thoughts to ponder if you decide to choose contentment as a way of living.
How to Live in Contentment
· Live simply. One will know when she has lived in contentment when she feels she doesn’t need to buy more material things that only cause chaos in the home – and in her mind. What you have now may not be rich or lavish, but you have it, and you don’t have to replace it. Then you are able to retain the precious things and at the same time save time and money.
· Commune with nature. Seeing the great outdoors actually leaves us in awe of the many things that are the way they are – miracles. Instead of thinking about problems and other stressors that disturb our flow of life energy, we must think about the gifts we have been given and the gifts we are able to share with others. Then we will be able to feel contentment.
You feel the benefits of your efforts and are excited to be on track to creating the life you want. But just because you recognize how far you’ve come and where you’re headed doesn’t mean anyone else will want to join you on your path. — Shameela Keshavjee, MS, LMFT-S
· Stop comparing. When we gauge ourselves according to how successful or beautiful or happy others are, we lose our perspective of being content with who we are and what we have. We must focus on defining our own person according to the goodness of our hearts, the family that surrounds us, and the big and small successes that we and our loved ones achieve. Comparing ourselves to others is a surefire way of feeling unhappy and discontented.
· Continue your journey towards self-improvement. When you continue growing and learning new ways to become better, it doesn’t mean you are a discontented person. It only means that you accept what you are and what you have right now, and you are willing to work towards becoming the person you want to be in the future. Everything you do that would help you improve and develop your skills will definitely provide you with such positive feelings of happiness, joy and contentment.
Putting these thoughts into action and practicing them daily would encourage us to build a routine of living a life contented. When this becomes habitual, we are able to foster peace, satisfaction, and happiness.
Our work with acceptance versus rejection of the realities that are beyond our control or outside our definition of perfection can help us build resilience but can also lead to emotional suffering. — Maury Joseph, PsyD
If you are having difficulty achieving this, though, you can always count on having someone from (possibly an online therapist) to guide you. A therapist is available online to walk you through how to live a life of simplicity and contentment.
Making new year’s resolutions dates some millenniums back to ancient Romans who offered promises to their two-faced god of beginnings and endings, Janus, vowing to conduct themselves better as they enter a new year. This same deity was also every ancient Roman citizen’s scapegoat whenever they couldn’t follow through their commitments. “It was Janus’ will” was their ready excuse.
We strive for a positive public opinion because we have started to believe that we are what people think we are. — Jacqueline Pearce, MSEd, LMHC
Oversized totes and shoulder bags are a woman’s best buddy especially moms. They exactly have the space to carry everything we need when we’re outside the comfort of our homes. They’re not exactly easy to lug around but who cares, right? As long as we have our essentials with us then, we’re good to go. WRONG! Continue reading “Experts: Heavy Totes are Great Health Risks [And Ways to Solve the Dilemma!]”
It is near impossible today to avoid feeling panicked at times, overwhelmed with daily stressors, or out of control in our emotional reactions. — Laura Palisin LPCC
When Memory Is Not Our Friend
Often, what is holding us back from achieving our dreams is not lack of money, lack of talent or even a shortage of opportunity, but simply the way our own thoughts betray us. Everybody fails at something they’ve set their heart on at some point in their life, or loses something or someone important to them. To some, this happens in such a traumatic fashion, or so many times, that they begin to think that luck will always be against them, or that the world is inescapably filled with people who will always act against their interests.
Maintaining a balance and compromise regarding the values of self and the values of other allows for a smoother, more holistic approach to living. — Joshua Nash, LPC-S
We all want to succeed. That’s for sure. But to be able to succeed, we need to put on the work needed to achieve our desires. It’s actually not that hard. Once you set your mind to the end goal and you continuously work hard to reach your full potential, you will surely succeed.
There’s no shortcut to success but there are a few tricks on how you can make your life easier to be able to maximize your full potential
You can justify to the world why you did what you did, but as long you are not honest with yourself, it can be difficult to find peace. — Jacqueline Pearce, MSEd, LMHC
Dreams and ambitions are pleasant things to have but they don’t pay the bills or help you become a better person. Goals and actions are what differentiate the successful from those who fail to reach their desires, regardless of one’s situation. Like getting an education for example; there are many ways how. Even if one is raised without a family, there are many agencies willing to help, read this article: http://www.edmondsun.com/news/two-okc-foster-care-agencies-join-forces-to-provide-school/article_9883c3d6-6690-11e7-aabc-8b0d181efc76.html/. For those of you who want to be a person who continually gets what they want out of life, continue reading to find out how to get where you want to be.
Throughout your life, you will encounter successful people who seem to effortlessly draw positivity into their lives. They are happy in their career, their relationships, and most importantly, they are happy with themselves. If you would like to be one of these people rather than being a spectator, take a look at the list of positive personality traits to cultivate below.
Confidence is something that some people have and some people don’t. Those who have it get their way and those who don’t have a more difficult time getting what they want. Luckily, confidence is something that can be learned for those who don’t naturally have it. If you’re someone looking to become more confident, use some of the tips below.
In my view, living authentically means living a life fueled by the consistent goal of manifesting our values in everything we do. — Joshua Nash, LPC-S
- Remove All Negativity From Your Life
Negativity is the enemy of confidence. When we have negative thoughts or feelings, they lower our self-esteem and make us feel as though we are not enough to accomplish our goals or overcome the boundaries in front of us. In order to become confident, you will first need to clear out all of the limiting beliefs that you have for yourself. Replace these beliefs with thoughts such as I am in love with me and I am strong enough to overcome my limits. These positive thoughts will boost your confidence levels and will carry you through difficult situations, which is what builds confidence.
- Improve Upon Your Less-Than-Perfect Areas
Let’s face it, we all have parts of ourselves that we wish we could change. Some parts, such as our eye color or the way our hair parts, cannot be changed. Our personalities and the way that we present ourselves, however, can be changed. For example, you may have noticed that you have been rather rude to your friends and family lately. That is something that you are able to change with the right plans and determination. If you have these types of flaws, recognize them and change them to build your confidence.
You can be honest with the world, but as long as you are not honest with yourself, you are not being fair. — Jacqueline Pearce, MSEd, LMHC
- Take Care of Yourself
In order to be confident, you are going to need to look and feel confident. That doesn’t mean you need to have a perfectly sculpted abdominal area or a $5,000 outfit. It means that you will need to start taking care of yourself so that you can begin to feel like a winner when you look in the mirror. Take time out of your day to exercise, groom yourself to the best of your ability, and dress to impress no matter where you are going. You’ll be surprised by how these type of things affect your confidence.
- Set Small Goals for Yourself and Achieve Them
People who try to build their confidence by achieving larger-than-life goals are only setting themselves up for failure. What you need to do to build your confidence is to set small goals, that way you won’t experience failure in pursuit of them, which will only bring down your self-confidence. Some examples of small goals that you can set for yourself are going job hunting, tackling the mess in the garage, or smiling at every person that you meet throughout your day. Your goals will depend on what you are looking to achieve in life but the end goal of this exercise is always the same.
So, if you are experiencing sudden panic, feeling overwhelmed or unable to control your emotions, it could be possible that these feelings could be traced back to an unprocessed memory still needing to be sorted out into your long term bank. — Laura Palisin LPCC
- Surround Yourself With People Who Build You Up
People who are beacons of negativity are just as bad as negative thoughts. They make an effort to tear you and everyone around them down constantly and they will not stop until you are completely broken. Instead of allowing these toxic people into your life, create a support group of positive people whose purpose in life is to help the world and build people up. These are the people you will turn to when things get rough and these are the people who will be the biggest support in your journey to becoming a more confident person.
We are told repeatedly that honesty is the most important of all ethics. However, what people tend to forget to teach us is the importance of self-honesty. — Jacqueline Pearce, MSEd, LMHC
Being honest with yourself is harder than it seems. There are plenty of reasons to be dishonest with yourself about your situation or your behavior. You may even be lying to yourself without knowing it because, from your perspective, you truly believe that your life is a certain way. However, it is important to be completely honest with yourself when you are attempting to improve yourself. Here is how you can begin to be honest with where you are in your life.