You can justify to the world why you did what you did, but as long you are not honest with yourself, it can be difficult to find peace. — Jacqueline Pearce, MSEd, LMHC
Dreams and ambitions are pleasant things to have but they don’t pay the bills or help you become a better person. Goals and actions are what differentiate the successful from those who fail to reach their desires, regardless of one’s situation. Like getting an education for example; there are many ways how. Even if one is raised without a family, there are many agencies willing to help, read this article: http://www.edmondsun.com/news/two-okc-foster-care-agencies-join-forces-to-provide-school/article_9883c3d6-6690-11e7-aabc-8b0d181efc76.html/. For those of you who want to be a person who continually gets what they want out of life, continue reading to find out how to get where you want to be.
- Create a Specific Goal List
You can’t get to where you want to be unless you have a plan for where you want to go. The first step to any good plan is creating a specific goal list that meets two requirements: it describes exactly what you want to achieve and it has a set deadline. For example, let’s imagine that you have been laid off from your job. You have exactly enough money saved up to pay your rent and other expenses for 6 months. Let’s also imagine that you are extremely experienced at cooking. Therefore, you would need to create a goal such as I will get a job as a chef in the next 5 months. Here you have a goal that describes what you need and when you need it. After you have created your specific goal, you are going to have to create a plan to reach that goal.
Rather than cultivating power over others (think abuse and manipulation), we want to cultivate self-power. — Joshua Nash, LPC-S
- Design a Plan for Your Goal
While a goal plays a big role in how successful a person is, you must also formulate a plan for how you intend to reach that goal. Continuing the example from the previous tip, your goal is to get a chef job within the next 5 months. How are you going to do that? Well, in order to make that goal something that is obtainable, you will probably need to take some actions such as sending in your resume, visiting restaurants to speak to the manager about open positions, asking your friends and family if they know about any positions that may have opened in a restaurant near them, and commuting to nearby towns so that you can expand your options. These actions and others that you create for yourself make up the plan that will be used to achieve your goal in the desired time frame.
Only the most important or immediate information is meant to stay in your short term memory, but unfortunately this is not always what happens. There are times when specific memories or events may get “stuck” in your short term memory instead of being processed out into long term memory. — Laura Palisin LPCC
- Put Your Plan Into Action
Taking action tends to be the most difficult part for people to do. Planning for your future and thinking about what you want is rather easy. Actually getting up and doing what is necessary to ensure that your goals are reached is much harder. The reason why this part can be so difficult for some people is that they let their fears prevent them from taking action. They are afraid of not reaching their goals and they are afraid of how people will perceive them should they fail to do what they want to do. Here is a valuable piece of advice: your fear will always become reality if you refuse to try. If you do not try to reach your goals, you will always fail. If you do not go for what you want, people will always think you are a failure because you never have what you want. Don’t worry about what other people think. Do what you must in order to get to where you want to be. It can be scary but it is better to push past that fear and acquire the things and positions that you want in life rather than staying down and letting all of your opportunities and ambitions fade away.